Sammy's Start while you sort the candy
Kids talk more when their hands are busy. While you sort Halloween candy together, ask:
- Who gave you the best candy?
- Which house was the most fun?
- Did any grown-up give you something special, or ask you to keep a secret?
If your child says yes to the last one, stay calm. Say: “Thank you for telling me. You're not in trouble.”
Ask the host family
Ask in a friendly text or call. A good host is happy to answer.
- Which grown-ups will be home the whole night?
- Who else is sleeping over?
- Will any older kids, teens, or other guests be there?
- What are the rules for phones, tablets, and games? Can kids use them alone at night?
- Where will the kids sleep?
- What movies or shows will they watch?
- Can my child call or text me any time, even late?
- What time is pickup, and who is driving?
The code word plan
- Pick a silly code word with your child, like “pumpkin pie.”
- If your child texts or says it, you come get them. No questions asked that night.
- Your child can say “I don't feel well” in front of others. The code word tells you the real reason can wait.
- Talk the next day, calmly. Start with “I'm glad you called me.”
Sammy's 4 sleepover rules
Say each rule, then have your child say it back.
- My body is mine. If something feels uh-oh, I can say no. Set 3
- No secrets, only surprises. Secrets that feel uh-oh get told right away. Set 1
- I can always call home. I know my code word. Set 8
- I tell my safe grown-up. I'm never in trouble for telling. Set 8
Watch together
Sammy's Sleepover Plan · free read-along movie, about 2½ minutes. Then pick your code word together.
Mia's Brave Sleepover · new free read-along movie, about 2½ minutes. Then practice saying stop in your biggest voice.
Sammy and the Candy Check · free read-along movie, about 3 minutes. Then ask: what does Sammy do when someone says come inside?
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Gentle signs to notice
One sign alone doesn't mean something is wrong. Notice patterns, and keep the door open.
- A grown-up or older kid gives your child special gifts, just for them. Stay curious. Ask, “What do you like about them?”
- Your child is asked to keep secrets from you. Remind them: no secrets from family, only surprises.
- Someone pushes for time alone with your child. Keep kids in groups and in shared rooms. You can say no.
- A sudden change in mood about a certain person. Listen more than you talk. Let your child set the pace.
- Your child doesn't want to go back somewhere. Believe them. You don't need a reason to say no to a visit.
If your child tells you something
Stay calm and believe them. Say: “It's not your fault. I'm glad you told me.” Don't push for details. If a child is in danger, call 911. If not, call Childhelp at 1-800-422-4453.
Is Halloween candy really dangerous?
Tampered candy is very rare. The real reasons to check are choking risks for little kids, allergies, and anything unwrapped or homemade from someone you don't know. The candy check is also a great time to talk.
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Updated November 2026. Sources: Darkness to Light, Childhelp, FDA Halloween food safety.